That was three years ago, and she’s still dealing with the consequences of both the divorce and of staying in an abusive relationship for so long.I encourage you to talk to people in person, and my prayer for you is that you listen to God’s leading. I’m learning to let go of it all. Please recognize abusive traits and stay away! I guess it’s when I finally decided to separate. He will never make plans with me even though he knows I love planning things until the day of or the night before the days I want to do something because “he’s not sure what he’s got going on”. He moved in and everything went great for a few months, in the last few years he’s been abusive with me, but not physically anymore,but physiologically. He was constantly screaming at me, calling me every name under the sun, threatening to leave me (so I would have to beg him to stay with me, which I did, as my self esteem was at its all time low), he would spit in my face, shove me and he started taking possessions he bought me as gifts and would lock them in his car until he felt I earned them back. This is when I found out he has full blown paranoid delusions. So one day, I finally felt like crap. A blanket that I loved, but was from my old life and he said that every time he looked at, all he saw my ex-husband. It’s a way to cope with the pain they feel.Talk to an adult you trust. Fast forward to now almost 8 years together, I tell my dr I am depressed and he prescribed me medicine, I don’t tell my dr the truth about my boyfriend I just say work is stressing me out, he tells me to take stress leave and I have been off for almost 2 months. If it wasn’t verbal abuse then it was emotional. But truthfully remember to let the feelings flow over you, grieve, but step forward.
2 weeks after the break up I booked a flight to London and spent 7 weeks in Europe on my own, to reflect, heal and rebuild myself and try to remember who I once was before I met my fiancé.
Be specific about what’s happening in your relationship. Every day I’m away from him, I feel a little bit more like myself. BE brave, be strong, honor yourself and listen to your intuition…………….if your gut is saying don’t be with this man listen.
I do things with my kids. Besides, everything was gone, he had already cleaned it.My point wasn’t to belittle your post, it was only to reach you and connect with you.
He has always had some sort of issue with drugs or alcohol, and I always accepted the reason that he acted the way he did was because of his addictions. FB was my only place to connect to my friends and see what they were up to. Ending a relationship is never easy; leaving a partner you love and live with might be the most difficult thing you’ve ever done. Most women would have left him months ago. I can honestly say unfortunately that he still controls me through the fear he invokes to me with only his eyes.I can’t stress enough, the end is never good in these situations.I don’t know why it’s so hard to leave an abusive relationship, and so painful to get over a man who you know didn’t treat you right. My prayer is that you find ways to make leaving this abusive marriage easier, and that the stages you go through are quick and painless.It’s not easy to leave an abusive relationship. And even if there weren’t one single nice man left in the world, I think it’s better to be alone than to be in a crappy relationship. All those things All end up in boxer and that’s not I want to end.Everything you have mentioned here is identical to my ex-husband’s lying, sneaking, cheating habits. Can anyone help me? For four years this man had cheated on me or attempted (before he was caught) to cheat on me. I too have undergone physical changes due to the appearent onset of depression, yet he constantly accuses me of adultry. No one said this was going to be easy, but you know, decisions that are worth our time rarely are. The abuse was progressive until i no longer knew who I was anymore. I completely understand where you are coming from on your feelings. I managed to leave and finish school, graduate with my degree.